Sarah Jane Young, Beyond Blue, PANDA, online bulling, @isthatfatima, R U OK?, mental health, bullying, blogger, COMPI,


Oh hi there, it’s me again on a mad-mamma rant! Yer yer ignore the ‘haters’ I hear you say, and in theory I totally agree with you. However, I truly believe in using my reach and online voice for good and not evil. These rants are never published with the intention of getting you to pity me either. They are here to give all those nasty biatches and trolls a kick-up the booty. I have a zero tolerance for bullying, biatches and bad drivers (sorry, I just had the throw that last one in there!). While I’ve spoken at length about the bullying I received during my pregnancy and early motherhood, last night was by far the most disgusting form of ‘trolling’ I’ve experienced. A nasty, nasty biatch commented on a beautiful photo taken of me and my daughter on our first family holiday last week. The comment read > “your child has cellulite” by an account called @isthatfatima. Yes, in amongst my disgust and outrage I actually laughed as well! UM, it’s called being a baby you twit! While I felt violated and enraged that someone would dare comment on my child in this sort of way, I also chuckled at her absolute ignorance and stupidity. My daughter is the picture of health and is reaching all her milestones, but most importantly, she is HAPPY. Anyone (mother or not) who has an IQ level of above 1 would know this though. That’s not the point. What is SO revolting is a grown adult could bully a four month old baby (from a private Instagram account). Wow, how tough are you? I have no doubt this individual leads a very bitter and unfulfilled life, but that’s not really my problem. We all have our own shit going on, but that’s NO reason to take it out on anyone else – especially a baby! I also have begun naming and shaming, in the hope that these accounts can be reported and removed. I certainly do not want to encourage any of my readers/followers (P.S you guys eff-ing rule!) to start getting stuck into her or anyone else – we are all better than that.

Today’s post is a quickie, but a goodie. It’s a reminder to all women (and men if you are reading this) to THINK before you speak. The online world can be a wonderful place when we all work together. What saddens me is that particularly as a new mamma, often the online world can become one of our biggest allies. Raising our little people is hard enough and very isolating at times. This is exactly why Instagram, Facebook and blogs are great platforms for advice, funny stories, cute pics and educational info. For anyone to hide behind a social media account (fake or real) and bully or criticise anyone else is despicable and inexcusable. I would also like to remind everyone about the ‘R U OK?’ campaign and really think about those words. Behind every social media account is a real person with real feelings. Whether you see friends, bloggers or celebrities posting pretty pictures, assume nothing. Why would any human WANT to be responsible for intentionally hurting another? It really is beyond me. Of course there are media personalities who I don’t particularly like, radio hosts who bore me, blah blah blah – the difference is, I don’t verbally bash or bully them. I was raised by a wonderful woman who taught me how to carry myself and treat others well. I will also say again, if you don’t like me, don’t relate to me, think my baby has cellulite, whatever, it’s very simple… EFF’ OFF!

I AM A MAMMA WHO BACKS OTHER MAMMAS. I AM A WOMAN WHO SUPPORTS OTHER WOMEN. If you don’t hold these same values, kindly stop following me. Cheers.

Today’s post is also about ensuring we as mammas, women, men and fellow-humans, ARE OK. I have no doubt that every single person reading this post has experienced some form of bullying. Below I’ve listed some of the many great organisations and their services that are available to help, even if it’s just for a chat over the phone. I would also urge you to see your local GP and ask for help/advice regarding further care. As the law slowly catches-up with the online world, you can also always seek legal advice surrounding online bullying and harassment. I am no expert in mental health or the law, but I am here to help raise awareness of the affects and damage that online bullying in our greater community can have. Please people, be nice.

PANDA – PANDA is committed to a community where perinatal depression and anxiety are recognised and the impact on women, men and their families are minimised through acknowledgement, support and education. PANDA’s mission is to: support and inform women, men and their families who are affected by perinatal depression and anxiety and educate health care professionals and the wider community about perinatal depression and anxiety. To contact the team at PANDA > 1300 726 306 (Mon – Fri, 10am – 5pm)

BULLY ZERO – The mission of Bully Zero Australia Foundation is to provide genuine and enduring care for bullying victims and their families. They exist to identify and empower bullying victims, to support and stand side by side with them, their families and friends in taking action and creating permanent positive change. To contact the Bully Zero team > 1800 028 559 (24/7)

COMPI (Children of Parents with a Mental Illness) – The COPMI (Children of Parents with a Mental Illness) national initiative develops information for parents, their family and friends in support of these kids and young people. This information complements online training courses developed by COPMI for professionals to support families either individually or through community services and programs. Their information is designed to foster better mental health outcomes for children of parents with a mental illness, reduce stigma associated with parental mental illness and help friends, family and workers in a range of settings identify and respond to the needs of the children and their families where parental mental illness exists. To contact the team at COMPI > CLICK HERE

R U OK? – R U OK? is a not-for-profit organisation founded by Gavin Larkin in 2009, whose vision is a world where we’re all connected and are protected from suicide. Accordingly, their mission is to encourage and equip everyone to regularly and meaningfully ask “are you ok?”. They know that suicide prevention is an enormously complex and sensitive challenge the world over. But they also know that some of the world’s smartest people have been working tirelessly and developed credible theories that suggest there’s power in that simplest of questions – “Are you ok?”. To find help > CLICK HERE

BEYOND BLUE – Most Australians have had some experience with anxiety, depression or a related condition, whether they’ve experienced it themselves or had family, friends or work colleagues go through it. beyondblue’s work is aimed at achieving an Australian community that understands depression and anxiety, empowering all Australians, at any life-stage, to seek help. To contact the team at Beyond Blue > 1300 22 4636 (24/7)

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  1. Sheree Grace
    September 17, 2015

    Omg what even?!? So ridiculous, that’s all I have to say about that comment.Your babe def looks happy and healthy and that’s all that matters anyway. I dig how you turned this rant post into a bullying PSA, shining a light on a big problem.
    Dig it.


    • Sarah Jane Young
      October 1, 2015

      Thanks huni, and I DIG your comment haha x

  2. Sara
    September 21, 2015

    Wow what an absolute low life! Such a ridiculous comment to make about any baby but Mia is just so beautiful and clearly a very happy bub.

    • Sarah Jane Young
      October 1, 2015

      It’s pretty shitty hey? Thanks for the love Sara x


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