SISJ INTERVIEW: DAVID CRUZ FROM BRAVO’S MILLIONARE MATCHMAKER >
I am so, so excited to finally share my interview with Millionare Matchermaker star, David Cruz! This is one of my fave Bravo shows and I absolutely fell in love with David on his first season with the original love master, Patti Stanger. I would like to thank David for his incredibly honest and thoughtful interview, I am truly honoured to welcome you to SISJ. You are an inspiration.
In the summer of 2010, David created the blog “Finding Cupid” for the gay men’s magazine Frontiers LA. The blog focused on his point of view about keeping Love alive in modern times. The blog’s success fueled his desire to bring more “love” to his friends and readers and thus the website, Finding-Cupid.com was born. David wanted to create a place for anyone (gay or straight) who has become jaded by dating, lost loves and modern times. He wanted a place where they could come to believe again, a place where anyone can go to find inspiration, to laugh, to be happy and to find stories of people in the world who are keeping the art of “Love” alive.
QUESTION ONE – Before we talk shop, tell us a little bit about yourself:
Ok, where do I begin… I was born in the city of Long Beach California. When I was five my family moved to the island of Guam, where both my parents were originally from. My dad was a Marine Biology teacher who later joined the National Guard and my mother was a former Miss Guam Universe who also became a teacher. My dad’s family stayed in California, so I would return for the holidays and visit them often. I always knew I’d move back to California when I got old enough. Three days after I graduated, I was on a plane to back to California. I attended a small community college in Orange County, called Cypress College. My dad hated that I had no aspiration to attend a more prestigious university, especially his Alma matter, Cal State Long Beach. I just was never one of those kids that loved school, so where I went wasn’t as important as just getting the whole process over with. Don’t get me wrong though, I excelled where I could. A few years into college, I was voted in as the President of the Student body and afterwards became the Editor in Chief of the campus newspaper. It was the best educational experience I ever had.
QUESTION TWO – Growing up and throughout your career, who has been your biggest role model and why?
As a child, I was obsessed with The Mickey Mouse Club, the revamp with Justin Timberlake, Britney and Christina. I wanted to be part of something fun like that. I’d make videos and record myself singing and dancing to songs like they did. It was pretty embarrassing- but I obsessed over being an entertainer. I took dance classes growing up and did tons of musicals. But none of that stuck. Then, in my junior year of high school, that’s when I caught the writing bug. I started to write in journals and became the editor of my high school paper. I was good with that. I did several internships and wrote for a few magazines and newspapers.
Eventually people like Oprah, Martha Stewart and Ryan Seacrest made their way into my life. I love Oprah because she represents a person who is successful and does good in the world. It isn’t all about ego or money. I admire that so much about her. I want to put as much good into the word as she does. Martha represents a woman who is inventive and business savvy. She started out as a party planning and recipe expert and made it into a billion dollar brand. I love her. And then there is Ryan Seacrest. He and I are the same age so his massive success constantly keeps me on my toes. He works so hard and doesn’t sleep when it comes to new business ventures. I have massive respect for him. If I were ever trapped in an elevator with any of those three, I’d pretty much embarrass myself. Id freak out. They are my greatest role models.
QUESTION THREE – Before Millionaire Matchmaker, what were your last few jobs?
When I first moved to LA 4 years ago, my first job was a denim expert at American Rag. Where I helped a million celebrities find the perfect jean fit. (The stories I could tell) I still consider denim knowledge that to be one of my super powers. Denim is my weakness. After that I worked for a company called Paper Source. It’s a super chic stationary, paper and gift store. I managed the Beverly Hills location, where once again, I helped every celebrity do invites, wrap gifts and do a ton of DIY crafting. I obsess over paper products and DIY anything, so this wasn’t even a job to me. It was heaven. My favorite part was helping newly engaged couples choose their wedding invitations. I also helped sooo many men write love letters, cards and yes, even wedding vows!
QUESTION FOUR – You are such a breath of fresh air to Millionaire Matchmaker and I absolutely fell in love with you last season. What do you think you bring to the show?
Awe, Thanks love. That means so much to me! I feel like I bring equal parts passion, enthusiasm and balance. Love and Matchmaking wasn’t something that was new to me, it’s my life. I consider myself a “Romance Enthusiast.” From Valentines Day, Weddings and Date Nights to Romantic Comedies and letter writing, I love them all. I bring to the show the knowledge of all the years that I have been writing for my website (Finding Cupid) hosting my talk show about love and dating, as well as writing for several magazines about relationships. Also, I am the first gay matchmaker on the show, which is a pretty big deal. To finally have a gay mans perspective and to “be” a gay man helping other gay people on the show is key. I am a triple threat to the other newbies. Lol!
QUESTION FIVE – The question on everyone’s lips is… What is it like to work for the very enthusiastic and entertaining, Patty Stanger?
Over the top amazing! What you see of Patti is what’s on tv. You don’t get to see the sweet, kind, nurturing puppy dog she is. Nobody ever gets to see that. Patti and I often break out into musical numbers in the office. We love singing songs from Grease and Cher. Lol. She may kill me for saying that. Sure you see her screaming at clients, but most of those clients deserve it. When you have clients that are successful in business and not in love, there is a problem. Sometimes they confuse the two for being the same. That’s where Patti’s tough love comes in. It’s necessary. Haven’t you ever been on a horrible date and wish someone like Patti was there to set them straight?! I sure have.
QUESTION SIX – Let’s not waste any more time… Do YOU believe in love at first sight, and what is the key to a successful relationship?
YES! But… I do not put pressure on having that as part of my fairly tale. You may fall in love, but not know it in the beginning. No two beginnings are the same for everyone. I fell madly in love much later into my relationship. In beginning, I treated it with the same caution as all of us do. That’s what age does to you. But when it hit me, I knew I couldn’t be with anyone else. The key to a successful relationship can be accomplished in three steps:
Making sure you are happy with your “Independent Self”: When you are confident in your personal happiness and the passions you have, you will never depend on another person to fulfill those. You must understand who you are though and through, before getting into any relationship. That way, when you do meet the love of your life- they will simply add another layer of happiness.
Understand Compromise: Between deciding on paint colors and choosing what’s for dinner. Decisions making will make or break you. Learning to compromise is an art that will bring you years of happiness.
Tend to Your Relationship Space: In every relationship, there is you, them and the relationship you have. Between work, school or even family, sometimes you forget to tend to the relationship. Make time for date night, weekend getaways or even take out in on the living room floor. Make space to talk, catch up and tend to you as a couple!
QUESTION SEVEN – I would normally ask my guests who their ‘girl crush’ is, so let’s go with a ‘person crush’ for you! Who inspires you and why?
I have a boy & girl crush. Is that selfish? I have always loved Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Brad is a fine specimen of a man that seems to get more handsome with age. He’s a great actor, father and humanitarian. And Angelina, my goodness, she is gorgeous and to me the face of humanitarianism. I have a strong physical and intellectual attraction to them both! In all seriousness though, they are both very talented actors who also seem to understand that the world is bigger than them. I love how they stand up for equality, democracy and global humanitarian responsibility. They are also both unafraid to very intellectually share their beliefs and experiences in the most articulate way. When Angelina spoke about breast cancer, it was so powerful. All people should find the space in their life to follow in their footsteps somehow.
QUESTION EIGHT – What are three qualities you believe are essential for inner happiness and also attracting the right person?
Self Love: Make time to do the things you love in life. Play with your inner child. Laugh out loud and do what you can to understand what makes you happy. When you define who you are by the things that make you happy, you are more connected to your identity.
Passion: Don’t be afraid to experience life. Go after all of your goals in life without fear or thought of how you will get there. Do what you love and love what you do.
Humility: No matter who you are, what you do or how much money you have. Humility will always keep you grounded. Master this and it will be the most attractive feature about you.
If you love David as much as I do, check out his amazing website > FINDING CUPID
IMAGE CREDITS > Bradford Rogne Photography & Finding Cupid.com